A post-election message from Marlo

My daughter and I are stunned and sad, but we are doing OK.
Here is something for you. Some words from me, with some music from my amazing dau...

Episode XXXV: Unwelcome (Part II)

What happens when supporting your child means leaving your home?
Meet my courageous friends from Montana, who are building a new life in a new...

Episode XXXIV: Unwelcome (Part I)

Imagine living in a place where your own child has been outlawed. This is happening, right now, all over the United States.
In this episode,...

Episode XXXIII: How We Are Now

It's been over two years. I wanted to let you know how we are doing.
Thank you for your patience.
(Spoiler: My daughter is still amazing...

Episode XXXII: The Medical Stuff

For years, people have asked me what I would do when my daughter hit puberty. Was I going to let her do... the "medical stuff?" Well, right after the...

Episode XXXI: M is for Middle School, Take Two

This episode is different from any of our previous episodes. It’s also a do-over, because the first version of this episode overlooked the fact that...

Episode XXX: Emma at last

I want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I'm so glad she'...

Episode XXIX: Eleven

I sit down for a talk with my (almost) 11-year-old: Cliques, gossip, fashion, puberty, and how it feels to be a transgender tween.
MUSIC CREDI...

Episode XXVIII: The Tell

A new friend at school. A poker lesson. A 10-year-old hatches a plan.
MUSIC CREDITS:
“Ganef” by Vagabond Opera and “Moonlight Love Affair”...

Episode XXVII: Playdates with Christians

Are the new next-door neighbors going to let their daughters play with mine if they find out she's transgender? To attempt to answer this question, I...

Episode XXVI: Sarah McBride

Need to hear a positive story about politics? I know I do. Here's the inspiring story of Sarah McBride, the young transgender activist who gives me...

Episode XXV: To Tell or Not to Tell? (Advice from HTBAG listeners)

In the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she's transgender?...

Episode XXIV: Moving & Marrying, Part III - New School

My daughter starts fifth grade at a new school next month.  It's a fresh start, where no one knows that she's transgender.  How do I handle this? How...

Episode XXIII: Moving & Marrying, Part II - Won't you be my neighbor?

We've moved.  To the suburbs.  We're getting to know the new neighbors, and we're wondering: Will they accept us here? 
MUSIC CREDITS:  "Glitter...

Episode XXII: Moving & Marrying, Part I - The Prince

Did you know there's a wedding coming up, uniting an Englishman with an American bride?  Listen now for ALL the juicy details on this intercontinental...

Episode XXI: Going First

In this episode, my daughter and I get to talk with two of our heroes.  Jazz Jennings is a reality TV star, LGBTQ activist, and arguably the most famo...

Episode XX: The Betrayal

Of course I knew this was going to happen eventually.  But that didn't make it any easier when it did. 
Music credits: 
“Chicxuclub” and “...

We're back! Welcome to a new season!

After a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back!  The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week.  Here's a little taste of what's to come.  

We Shall Overcome

A little girl, a holiday, big news, and... a miracle!

This mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this...

When it rains it pours

How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite. 
M. tries her hand at TV journalism.

Episode XIX: Red State Mama

I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state.
Music credits: "Telling Me So" and "Spring" (instrumental) by St. Paul...

A little update from Marlo

This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious.  I also have some news.  Plus, cat videos. 
(KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl lis...

Episode XVII: The Window

In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump comin...

Episode XVI: How to Be a (Teen) Girl

It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time.  What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager?
Musi...

Episode XV: Just Maybe

She hasn't got a womb or ovaries but she wants to be a mommy.  How do I tell my young daughter that she won't ever be a biological mother? 
Musi...

A post-election message from my 8-year-old trans daughter

My 8-year-old transgender daughter is not giving up.  She's eating popcorn and singing and telling jokes and she has some advice for you. 

Episode XIV: My Friend Lauren

When I first realized I had a transgender child, Lauren reached out and told me it was going to be OK. Ever since, she's been the one I lean on when I...

Episode XIII: Play Date

My daughter has lots of friends, and she's big on play dates with other little girls.  But sometimes we need to book a special play date, because some...

Episode XII: How to Be a Dad

When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our...."son." Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the c...

Short and Silly

This isn't a full episode.  Just a little update on what we've been up to, with some very silly audio of my daughter. (What can I say? It's been a sil...

Episode XI: Bathroom Bill

I never thought a bathroom bill - the kind they passed in North Carolina - would come to my home state.  But it did.  They're trying to pass one where...

Episode X: School (Part II)

This is a continuation of Episode IX. It tells the rest of the story of what happened when my transgender daughter started second grade at a new schoo...

Episode IX: School (Part I)

This episode has been six months in the making, because that's how long it took for this story to play out. It's the story of my daughter entering sec...

Episode VIII: Meeting Laverne

Earlier this year, my daughter got to meet the transgender TV star Laverne Cox. I wrote about it for my blog, and that heart-warming, feel-good post w...

Episode VII: THE FACTS (about transgender kids)

When my "son" first started saying that "he" was actually a "she," I went looking for information. I wanted hard numbers. I wanted data. I wanted sc...

Episode VI: The Interview

This episode is a little different from the others I've made. It's mostly just my daughter talking, answering my questions about what it's like being...

Episode V: Looking for Love

She's six years old and transgender.  I'm a single mom.  This is what happens when we both hit the dating scene and compare notes about it.
Musi...

Episode IV: Tom Boy Trans Girl

How girlie do you have to be to secure your spot in the girl club?  And what happens when your own mother questions your girl credentials? 

Episode III: How Old is Gender?

Am I insane?  How can I be so sure that my young child is transgender?
Music credits: "Her Love Comes in Air" by soundZcapa, "Gato" by Rod Hamil...